the wild woman within (and how to meet her)
remembering the part of you that was never meant to be tamed
There is a woman who lives inside of you. She has always been there. She was there when you were a little girl running barefoot, hair tangled, laughing at the top of your lungs without a single thought of who was watching. She was there when you danced in your bedroom with the door closed. She was there when you made decisions from your gut and trusted them completely. She was there before the world started telling you to be quieter, smaller, sweeter, more polished, less. She has never left.
She is the wild woman within. And she is patiently, quietly, fiercely waiting for you to remember her.
Most of us lost touch with her somewhere along the way. It happened slowly. A comment about how we were too loud. A look that said we were too much. A lesson that taught us being agreeable was safer than being honest. A culture that rewarded us for being palatable and punished us for being powerful. We learned to soften our edges, dim our intuition, swallow our knowing. We traded the wild for the acceptable.
And then, one day, we wake up. Maybe in our thirties. Maybe in our forties. Maybe, like me, not until our fifties. I didn't discover my wild woman until I was in my 50s, and I am living the truth of that right now, at 54 years old, in what feels like a true rebirth. This decade of my life has been unlike any that came before it. The layers I spent fifty years collecting have started to fall away. The voice I had quieted my whole life has gotten louder, clearer, more sure of herself. I am meeting parts of me I did not even know were waiting. And I want you to know: it is never too late. Not in your thirties. Not in your forties. Not in your fifties or sixties or beyond. The wild woman within does not have an expiration date. She has been waiting all this time, and she will keep waiting until you are ready. We wake up and feel a stirring. A restlessness. A sense that something is missing, even when our lives look perfectly fine on the outside. That stirring is her. That restlessness is her. That whisper is her, asking, do you remember me yet?
The wild woman is not wild in the way the word has been used against us. She is not chaotic, reckless, or out of control. She is wild in the original sense — untamed, undomesticated, free. She is the part of you that knows, deep in her bones, who you are and what you came here for. She is your intuition. Your instinct. Your truth. She is the version of you that does not perform for approval, does not shrink to make others comfortable, does not betray herself to keep the peace.
She is the woman who speaks up when something feels wrong. Who follows the call even when it doesn't make sense to anyone else. Who feels everything deeply and is not afraid of her own depth. Who knows the cycles of her body and honors them. Who understands that her sensitivity is a strength, not a weakness. Who trusts what she feels even when no one else can see it.
She is the woman the world has been trying to convince you not to be. And she is the woman you have been longing to come home to.
Meeting her is not about becoming someone new. It is about remembering someone you have always been. She has not gone anywhere. She has just been waiting beneath the layers of conditioning, the years of should, the lifetime of trying to be good. Meeting her begins with simply noticing where she has been suppressed — and gently inviting her back.
A few ways to begin meeting the wild woman within:
Listen for her voice. She is the quiet knowing underneath the loud thinking. She is the gut feeling you have been talked out of trusting. She is the no you swallowed and the yes you didn't say out loud. Start paying attention. Her voice has been there all along.
Spend time alone, in nature. She lives close to the earth. Walk in the woods. Sit by water. Lie on the grass. Take off your shoes. Let your body remember that you are part of the natural world, not separate from it. She often shows up in the wild places.
Move your body in ways that feel free. Not exercise for the sake of how you look. Movement for the sake of how it feels. Dance in your kitchen. Stretch on the floor. Sway. Shake. Let your body lead. The wild woman lives in the body, not the mind.
Honor your cycles. Pay attention to the rhythms of your body, the moon, the seasons. The wild woman knows that you are not meant to be the same every day. She understands rest as sacred, retreat as necessary, and slowness as wisdom. She does not push through.
Tell the truth. Even small truths. Especially uncomfortable truths. Every time you say what is real instead of what is expected, you call her closer. Every time you stop performing and start being, she stirs awake.
Stop apologizing for who you are. For your sensitivity. For your intensity. For how much you feel. For taking up space. For wanting what you want. For being too much, or not enough, or whatever the world has tried to make you believe about yourself. She does not apologize for her existence. Neither should you.
Trust your intuition again. Even when it doesn't make sense. Even when others can't see what you see. Your knowing is not crazy. It is ancient. It has kept women alive for thousands of years. Listen to it.
Gather with other women. The wild woman in you is awakened by the wild woman in others. There is something that happens in a circle of women that cannot happen anywhere else. You remember her in their presence. You give each other permission to come home.
Meeting her is not always easy. She will ask things of you that the domesticated version of you has avoided. She will ask you to speak up when you have always stayed quiet. To leave what is no longer yours to carry. To set down the masks. To let yourself want what you want without justification. She will ask you to become who you actually are, instead of who you have been pretending to be.
But she will also give you back to yourself. And that is the most precious gift there is.
The wild woman within is not someone you have to become. She is someone you have to remember. She is the truest version of you, the one underneath all the layers, the one who has been waiting patiently beneath the noise. She is your birthright. Your inheritance. Your soul.
She is calling you home.
Listen for her. Walk toward her. Let yourself remember.
She has been waiting for you all along.
